Cutting Loss Down to Size: Psycho-babble

Words of wisdom from the "experts"

This is my tongue-in-cheek name for the part of the blog where I share scientifically-grounded information about topics of interest to those of us dealing with losses. Since I have a personal bias (i.e. embrace your pain, don’t hide from it), most of what you read here will reflect that perspective. But, hey, isn’t it comforting to know that greater minds than mine are talking the same talk?

Borchard, Therese J. 7 Good Reasons to Cry: The Healing Properties of Tears. July 20, 2014.
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/05/29/7-good-reasons-to-cry-the-healing-property-of-tears/ You are shedding those tears for good, sound reasons. Go ahead and cry!

Sharma, Vijai. Yoga, Living, and Chronic Illness. Sept., 2013.
http://www.mindpub.com/art042.htm

Dr. Sharma, a clinical psychologist with 30 years’ experience, writes on a variety of topics. For those of you being asked “aren’t you over this yet?”, you may find his article “How Long Does Active Grieving Last” helpful. FYI: you are not crazy, and it does take time!

Welcome To My Blog

If you’ve found your way here it might be because you searched online topics such as grief, loss, life changes, coping, living well, or other possibilities. This blog will explore all of those topics and more, as it evolves to reflect my journey and possibly yours.

We all know that life brings changes. Some of them are difficult to accept but we are told by friends and family that we must “move on”. I never really thought about exactly how that “moving on” is supposed to happen until the changes in my life became unbearably large and devastating.

When I noticed that I was waking up each morning thinking “oh, no…another day!”, I realized I needed to do something. I tried participating in individual and group therapy. I read books about grief. I tried to find activities to fill the empty spaces as I wondered when things would get better. Sometimes I still wonder!

Do I think I have all the answers? Of course not. That’s where all of you come in. Collectively, we are smarter, stronger, and more creative than we are in isolation. I believe that, within a community, we become more resilient as we learn from each other. Welcome to our community.